One of our members summed it up so eloquently on what happens when you first walk through the doors at Harvey Brooker Weight Loss for Men. You walk in a stranger but you soon realize that you are not alone. You’re first greeted at the door by one of our hosts that seemingly look like they never had a weight problem as he introduces himself and assists in your initial weigh-in. You are surrounded by men of various shapes and sizes milling around the coffee machine discussing current events, could be how the Toronto sports teams are doing or strategies they’ve incorporated into their daily routines.
We know how important group support is. People are social creatures, and likeminded people get together to share their stories. Success breeds success. In the Charles Duhigg book, ‘The Power of Habit – Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business’ (Random House, 2012), he suggests that “If you want to lose weight…a group that tracks weight-loss together…” He goes on to say “Belief is essential, and it grows out of a communal experience, even if that community is only as large as two people.”
The men who are most successful in our program have learned the importance of making connections with other members. Often they find they have some common interests and share other similarities. We look at this as a weight loss ‘brotherhood’. Many members develop a bond with other members that expand into their families, career, business relations, and hobbies. This bond or connection provides an additional element of on-going accountability.
I believe strongly that men are used to teams – in sports (hockey, baseball, etc.). Guys look for fellowship and in our program there is a natural fellowship that takes place similar to a Rotary Club or a golf club. It supports accountability and the idea that people are looking forward to seeing you. There is also a competitive spirit which can bolster each other’s results. We have experienced that when someone is down they find it helpful to have someone to pick them up and re-assure them. As you may have already discovered in other areas of your life, groups are often a great way to tackle a project. Our members find out how important groups are in their weight loss project.