Even if you’re only slightly overweight, you’re beginning to drift from the ideal that you once were or that you could be. You can pretend on the outside that it doesn’t matter, but it’s a sign that you’re beginning to lose control of your life. You know that others know this as well, and let’s face it – that hurts.
How far you let it drift before you choose to act depends on how much reinforcement you’re getting from other parts of your life. We had a member who described himself as “successfully fat.” That meant that at least for a time in his overweight life he felt that he was getting away with overeating. His job was good, and his family was great. The problem with this thinking is that the more you let your weight get out of control, the more it affects all those other parts of your life that were propping up your self-image while you were letting your body deteriorate. Of course, our “successfully fat” client eventually came here because he needed to do something to get his life back under control. As you face any feelings of low self-worth, it’s important to understand that you’re not alone. If the statistics are telling the truth, then millions of men in North America are feeling the same way you do now.
So, my message to you is simple. You are not alone if you have trouble expressing what you’ve been feeling about your life. You are not crazy because someone has prescribed you antidepressants. You’re not demented because you have a lot of pent-up rage. You do have feelings and you’re probably terribly frustrated, and if you’re reading this blog, possibly you’ve covered up a lot of these feelings by eating and drinking. And I’ll bet the eating was focused on comfort food- sugars and fats in pre-packaged food that set you on a downward spiral. As you will see during our weekly classes, your self-esteem will affect your health, your work, and your sex life, so if you aren’t feeling good about yourself, do something about it. Self-esteem can be restored as quickly as making an active decision to take control of your eating habits, and the good news is that getting control of your eating can help you master many of the other issues in your life.